Ladies Only: 7 Ways to Know If Your Man Is Leading You On

 

Navigating the complexities of dating can be tricky, especially when you’re not sure if the guy you’re seeing is truly interested in a serious relationship or just stringing you along.

No one likes to feel played, but sometimes it’s hard to spot the signs that someone isn’t as invested as they claim to be.

If you’ve been feeling uncertain about where things are headed, here are 7 signs that could indicate a man is leading you on.

1. He’s Hot and Cold: One of the clearest indicators that a man might be leading you on is inconsistency in his behaviour. One day he’s all in; sending sweet messages, calling, making plans... and the next, he’s distant, unresponsive, or acting uninterested. This rollercoaster can leave you feeling confused and questioning where you stand. If his actions don’t match his words, take it as a red flag. A man who truly cares about you will be steady and consistent.

2. He Avoids Defining the Relationship: If you’ve been dating for a while but every time you bring up the conversation about where things are headed, he deflects or avoids it altogether, it could be a sign he’s not serious. When someone is invested, they want to ensure both parties are on the same page. A man who is leading you on will often use excuses like “I don’t like labels” or “Let’s just see where this goes,” but without ever taking steps toward a committed relationship.

3. He Only Reaches Out When It’s Convenient for Him: Does he mostly reach out when it’s late at night or when he’s bored? If he’s not making time for you during the day or planning actual dates, it’s likely that he’s only interested in keeping you around for his convenience. A man who’s serious about you will make an effort to see you and prioritize you in his life, not just when it suits him.

4. He Keeps You Away from His Inner Circle: If a man is serious about you, he’ll want you to meet the people closest to him; his friends and family. If he’s been keeping you at arm’s length, avoiding introducing you to his inner circle, it could mean he’s not seeing a future with you. Pay attention to how integrated you are into his life. If he’s only making time for you in isolation, he might not be taking the relationship seriously.

5. He Talks About Future Plans, But Never Follows Through: Does he talk a big game about vacations, meeting your family, or future plans, but those plans never seem to materialize? This is a classic tactic used by someone who is leading you on. They dangle the idea of a future in front of you to keep you invested without ever making any real commitment. If the promises aren’t backed up by actions, it’s time to reassess his intentions.

6. You Always Feel Uncertain About Where You Stand: A solid relationship should feel secure and clear, not filled with anxiety or doubt. If you constantly find yourself wondering where you stand, what he’s thinking, or if he’s genuinely interested in you, it might be a sign that he’s leading you on. Trust your gut - if something feels off, it probably is.

7. He’s Still Active on Dating Apps: In today’s digital age, one of the easiest ways to tell if someone is serious about you is their activity on dating apps. If you’ve been seeing each other for a while but he’s still swiping or active on multiple dating platforms, that’s a major red flag. A man who is serious about you will naturally phase out other options to focus on building something meaningful with you.

When it comes to dating, actions always speak louder than words. If you’re feeling uncertain about a man’s intentions, it’s important to take a step back and objectively assess how he’s treating you.

A man who truly values you will make his intentions clear and won’t leave you feeling confused or uncertain.

Remember, you deserve someone who is just as invested in you as you are in them. Don’t settle for anything less!