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Divorced and Thriving: How to Break the Stigma Around Second Chances

  Let’s be honest; nobody walks down the aisle thinking they’ll one day be divorced. You plan the wedding, dream of forever, and hope love will always be enough. Unfortunately, it isn’t always so. And when it all falls apart, society often makes it worse. Especially here in Nigeria, where aunties at every family gathering suddenly become relationship counsellors, whispering things like, “What happened?” or “You’ll find someone soon, by God’s grace.” As if your worth expired with your marriage . Now, here’s the truth: divorce isn’t the end of your story. It’s a chapter; a painful one, yes, but also powerful. It can be the beginning of rediscovery, healing, and even thriving. So, let’s talk about breaking the stigma and embracing second chances in love, in life, and in yourself. 1. The Stigma Is Real, But It’s Also Outdated: In our culture, divorce is still whispered about like a scandal. People say “she’s divorced” in hushed tones, as if it’s a crime. Men face judgment too, t...

Self-care: How to Create a Morning Routine That Sets the Tone for Your Day

 

Young lady reclining on a chair

There’s something powerful about mornings. They hold a fresh promise; a chance to begin again, to align your energy, and to take control of your day.

However, many of us rush through our mornings, checking our phones before we’ve even opened both eyes, skipping breakfast, or diving headfirst into emails. But what if we could use this sacred time to nourish our mind, body, and spirit? That’s where a self-care-focused morning routine comes in.

Creating a morning routine doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming. In fact, it should be something you look forward to, something that feels good and fits naturally into your lifestyle.

Here’s how to design a morning routine that sets a positive tone for the rest of your day.


1. Wake Up With Intention: Start by waking up a little earlier than usual. Just 15 to 30 minutes can make a difference. Avoid the urge to hit snooze. Instead, take a few deep breaths, stretch, and set an intention for the day. This simple practice shifts your mind-set from reactive to proactive. You’re not just waking up; you’re preparing to thrive.

Young African man waking up in bed


2. Skip the Scroll: Resist the temptation to reach for your phone. Scrolling through social media or emails immediately puts you in a reactive state. Instead, give yourself a buffer, say 10 to 30 minutes of phone-free time, to connect with yourself before the outside world.


3. Hydrate and Nourish: Drink a glass of water as soon as you wake up. Your body becomes dehydrated overnight, and rehydrating helps jumpstart your metabolism and flush out toxins. Follow this with a nourishing breakfast; something that fuels you, not just fills you. Think protein, healthy fats, and whole grains.


4. Move Your Body: Incorporating even a few minutes of movement into your morning can boost your energy and mood. Whether it’s stretching, a brisk walk, or a quick workout, moving your body helps you feel more awake and centred.

A happy lady


5. Mindful Moments: Carve out time for mindfulness. This could be meditation, journaling, deep breathing, or simply sitting with your cup of coffee in silence. These quiet moments can reduce anxiety, increase focus, and help you tap into gratitude. A few minutes of presence can have a lasting impact.


6. Plan Your Day: Take a few minutes to review your schedule, set priorities, and write down your top 3 tasks. This keeps you focused and prevents that overwhelmed feeling later in the day. Knowing what needs your attention and what doesn’t, can help you manage your energy more effectively.

Young African man writing in a  journal


Creating a morning routine is a form of self-respect. It’s your daily reminder that you deserve peace, clarity, and nourishment before the demands of the day begin.

Start small, stay consistent, and adjust as you go. Over time, these small rituals can lead to big shifts in your mood, mind set, and overall well-being.

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