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Divorced and Thriving: How to Break the Stigma Around Second Chances

  Let’s be honest; nobody walks down the aisle thinking they’ll one day be divorced. You plan the wedding, dream of forever, and hope love will always be enough. Unfortunately, it isn’t always so. And when it all falls apart, society often makes it worse. Especially here in Nigeria, where aunties at every family gathering suddenly become relationship counsellors, whispering things like, “What happened?” or “You’ll find someone soon, by God’s grace.” As if your worth expired with your marriage . Now, here’s the truth: divorce isn’t the end of your story. It’s a chapter; a painful one, yes, but also powerful. It can be the beginning of rediscovery, healing, and even thriving. So, let’s talk about breaking the stigma and embracing second chances in love, in life, and in yourself. 1. The Stigma Is Real, But It’s Also Outdated: In our culture, divorce is still whispered about like a scandal. People say “she’s divorced” in hushed tones, as if it’s a crime. Men face judgment too, t...

Slow Living: Why Doing Less Can Bring You More

 

A happy man

If life feels like an endless sprint; from work to errands, social media to side hustles, you’re not alone. Somehow, “being busy” has become the new status symbol.

We brag about packed calendars like it’s a badge of honour, while secretly dreaming of a day when we can just… breathe.

Enter slow living; the quiet rebellion against all the chaos. It’s not about quitting your job, moving to the countryside, or deleting all your apps (unless you want to). It’s simply about learning to be present, intentional, and at peace with doing less. Ironically, that’s how you end up gaining more.

Now, let’s unpack that.


1. Less Doing = More Being: When was the last time you had a moment of silence without checking your phone? Or finished your meal without rushing to the next task? Most of us are so used to doing that we’ve forgotten how to simply be.

Slow living invites you to pause; to sip your tea instead of gulping it, to walk instead of scroll, and to breathe without rushing to the next “productive” thing. The good thing about this is that when you stop chasing time, it slows down for you.

You start noticing small, beautiful things like the way sunlight hits your wall in the morning, or even how a song makes you feel something deep. You’re no longer living for the weekend or the next vacation, you’re living now.

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2. Less Noise = More Clarity: Constant noise, both literal and digital, keeps your mind on edge. You wake up to notifications, drown in emails, and wind down with endless scrolling. Before you know it, your brain is running a marathon it never signed up for.

When you embrace slow living, you start to create space. That could mean muting unnecessary group chats, saying no to extra commitments, or setting your phone aside during meals. Suddenly, there’s clarity. You can actually hear your own thoughts.

You might even realize what truly matters to you, that maybe you don’t want to climb the corporate ladder, or that spending a quiet Saturday alone makes you happier than attending another “networking” brunch. Clarity comes when you quiet the world long enough to listen to yourself.

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3. Less Stuff = More Freedom: We often think buying more will make us happier; more clothes, more gadgets, more décor. But the truth is, the more you own, the more it owns you.

Slow living isn’t about being minimalist to the extreme, but it’s about being intentional. It’s choosing quality over quantity, meaning over impulse. It’s realizing that you don’t need a new outfit for every occasion or the latest phone to feel fulfilled.

When your space isn’t cluttered, your mind isn’t either. And with fewer distractions, you can focus on what actually matters, which are; experiences, relationships, and peace of mind.

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4. Less Pressure = More Joy: We live in a culture that glorifies hustle. “Sleep is for the weak,” they say, but you know what’s actually weak? Burnout. Constantly pushing yourself without rest isn’t strength, it’s exhaustion disguised as ambition.

Slow living redefines success. It tells you it’s okay to take a nap, to rest, to spend an entire Sunday doing nothing productive. Joy often hides in those unplanned, quiet moments when you’re laughing with a friend, watching the sunset, or just existing without expectations.

When you stop measuring your worth by how much you do, you start finding joy in who you are.

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5. Less Rush = More Meaning: Here’s the truth; when you rush through life, you miss it. You miss the in-between moments, the laughter during a messy dinner, the smell of rain before it pours, the comfort of slow mornings...

Doing less doesn’t mean you’re lazy or unmotivated, it means you’re choosing to live intentionally, to give your energy to what fills you, not drains you. It’s about quality of life, not quantity of accomplishments. So, maybe this week, you can try it.

Take a slow walk without your phone. Cook without multitasking. Journal with your morning tea. Or just sit still for five minutes and breathe. You might discover that the life you’ve been rushing toward… is already here.

A woman relaxing in a bathtub


Slow living isn’t a trend, it’s a mind set. It’s about realizing that your worth isn’t tied to how fast you move, how busy you are, or how much you achieve. 

It’s about peace, presence, and purpose. And that’s because sometimes, the best way to move forward is to slow down.

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