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Divorced and Thriving: How to Break the Stigma Around Second Chances

  Let’s be honest; nobody walks down the aisle thinking they’ll one day be divorced. You plan the wedding, dream of forever, and hope love will always be enough. Unfortunately, it isn’t always so. And when it all falls apart, society often makes it worse. Especially here in Nigeria, where aunties at every family gathering suddenly become relationship counsellors, whispering things like, “What happened?” or “You’ll find someone soon, by God’s grace.” As if your worth expired with your marriage . Now, here’s the truth: divorce isn’t the end of your story. It’s a chapter; a painful one, yes, but also powerful. It can be the beginning of rediscovery, healing, and even thriving. So, let’s talk about breaking the stigma and embracing second chances in love, in life, and in yourself. 1. The Stigma Is Real, But It’s Also Outdated: In our culture, divorce is still whispered about like a scandal. People say “she’s divorced” in hushed tones, as if it’s a crime. Men face judgment too, t...

Couples Only: 7 Non-Verbal Ways to Say ‘I Love You’ That Speak Louder Than Words

African couple in love

 

Saying “I love you” is a powerful gesture, but there are ways to express it without actually saying the words — or using physical intimacy.

Often, it’s these small, thoughtful actions that show someone just how much they mean to us.

Here are 7 non-verbal ways to say “I love you” that make your partner feel seen, appreciated, and deeply cherished.


1. Actively Listen Without Distractions: In a world full of noise and interruptions, giving someone your undivided attention is one of the most powerful ways to show love. Put away your phone, maintain eye contact, and listen actively. When you’re present in the moment and truly hear them, it communicates respect and care, letting them know that what they say matters to you.

African couple cuddling


2. Remember the Small Details: Whether it’s their favourite coffee order, a hobby they’ve been wanting to try, or a story they shared with you months ago, remembering the small details shows that you’re paying attention. When you surprise them with a thoughtful gesture based on something they mentioned in passing, it tells them you care enough to remember.

Interracial couple in love


3. Offer Words of Affirmation and Support: Words are powerful, and sometimes a simple “I’m proud of you” or “I believe in you” can mean the world. Expressing appreciation and encouragement, especially during tough times or when they’re working toward a goal, is a way of showing that you’re in their corner no matter what.

Happy African couple


4. Do a Task for Them: Taking something off your partner’s to-do list without being asked shows that you’re tuned in to their needs. Whether it’s running an errand, washing the dishes, or folding laundry, these small acts of service can be surprisingly impactful. They send a message that you’re willing to step in and help ease their load.

African couple folding  laundry


5. Give Thoughtful Gifts: Gift-giving doesn’t have to mean expensive presents; it’s the thought behind them that counts. A surprise meal delivery, a small handwritten note, or a book they’ve been wanting to read are all ways to show that you know and understand their preferences. It’s about showing love through thoughtful gestures that bring a little joy into their day.

Happy African couple


6. Spend Quality Time Together: Spending time together doing something you both enjoy — whether it’s a movie night at home, a walk in the park, or trying a new recipe — shows that you prioritize them. Quality time can mean different things to different people, so find what works for you both and make a habit of it. It’s about making memories and strengthening your connection.

African couple hanging out


7. Celebrate Their Wins, Big and Small: A loving partner celebrates your wins, whether it’s landing a big promotion or finishing a long-overdue project. Show your support by being their cheerleader, celebrating milestones, and sharing in their happiness. When you acknowledge and celebrate their accomplishments, it shows that you care about their journey and are proud of them.

African couple celebrating


Love is shown in actions, big and small. These gestures don’t just say “I love you”; they also communicate respect, admiration, and appreciation.

The next time you want to show your love, try one of these thoughtful ways and watch how it brings you closer.

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