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Healthy Living: The Price of Wellness vs The Cost of Sickness

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In Nigeria, when you start talking about healthy living, many people instantly roll their eyes. You’ll hear things like, “Who get time to dey buy fruit every day?” or “Abeg, leave all these fitfam talk. Food wey person see, na him person go chop,” or “Na rich people sabi all these things.”

All of these comments are understandable. Life is tough, money is tight, and when you’re trying to survive, wellness can feel like one extra responsibility you didn’t ask for. But there’s something we don’t always talk about: poor health is far more expensive than healthy living; emotionally, physically, and especially financially.

If you doubt it, just walk into any hospital today. You’ll see wards filled with everyday Nigerians who never imagined they would spend their savings, or borrow money, to treat things that could have been prevented with small lifestyle changes.

This article isn’t about guilt, it’s about awareness. The truth is simple: prevention is cheaper than cure, and healthy living is not a luxury. It’s a survival strategy in this economy and here’s why:


1. Medical Bills in Nigeria Are No Joke: If you’ve ever accompanied someone to a hospital, you already know that even the “cheap” hospitals will shock you. Before a doctor sees you, you’ve already paid for card, consultation, tests, and sometimes medications. A single malaria case with complications can cost more than one month’s groceries.

Now imagine chronic illnesses like diabetes, hypertension, or heart disease. These conditions require life-long medication, regular check-ups, and sometimes emergency care. Many of these illnesses are linked to things like diet, lack of exercise, stress, and poor sleep.

And guess what? Most Nigerians living with hypertension or diabetes don’t even know they have it until something goes wrong. By then, the cost is higher, the treatment tougher, and the emotional burden heavier. Healthy living may feel like a sacrifice today, but sickness will demand more tomorrow.

A patient in hospital with a relative (Deposit Photos)


2. Small Daily Habits Prevent Big Future Costs: People often think “healthy living” means buying organic food, going to the gym, drinking smoothies, and eating only salads. But real healthy living is more practical than that. It’s things like:

✓ drinking more water than sugary drinks

✓ moving your body for 20–30 minutes a day

✓ adding vegetables to whatever you’re already cooking

✓ controlling portion sizes

✓ reducing salt and oil in your food

✓ sleeping better

✓ cutting back on alcohol and smoking

✓ managing stress in healthier ways

None of these require a millionaire’s budget. Walking is free, drinking water is cheaper than soft drinks, buying vegetables at the local market is cheaper than buying fried foods daily, and cooking at home is cheaper than eating out regularly. These small, simple choices today can save you thousands, even millions, later.

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3. Your Body Doesn’t Care About Your Hustle, It Will Break Down If You Abuse It: Nigeria thrives on hustle culture. People brag about sleeping only a few hours, working nonstop, and pushing through exhaustion because they “don’t have a choice.” But your body is not a machine. Stress is silent but deadly.

High stress levels can trigger hypertension, ulcers, migraines, hormonal imbalance, insomnia, weakened immunity, and burnout. When the body breaks down, the hustle stops and medical bills rise. That’s why prioritising health is not selfish; it’s strategic. You cannot take care of your family or chase your dreams if you’re consistently sick.

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4. Healthy Living Isn’t About Money, It’s About Mindset: A lot of the time, the problem isn’t cost but perception. Many Nigerians were raised to see food as comfort, celebration, or reward. We’re used to heavy eating, fried foods, and large portions. We laugh at people who say they are cutting sugar or carbs. We say things like, “Person go die one day.”

Yes, we will all die someday, but must we suffer before then? Healthy living is about choosing quality of life. It’s not punishment, but self-respect. It’s understanding that the little choices you make daily shape your future health. Your body is the only permanent home you have, so treat it accordingly.

A happy woman (File photo)


5. Prevention Gives You Freedom: Think about how much you could save, financially and emotionally, if you took your health more seriously today. That’s fewer hospital visits, fewer medications, less anxiety about your wellbeing, more energy for the things you love, and more time with your family.

Healthy living may require effort, planning, and sometimes a bit of money, but it gives you something priceless: freedom. 

A couple jogging (File photo)


Healthy living might seem expensive in the moment, but hospital bills don’t negotiate. Your health is not optional: it’s your most valuable asset, so protect it now, while you still can.

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